Miss Manners: Their toddler registry is outrageous. Should grandmother go public with her disgrace?

Dear Miss MANNERS: My mom and I agree that we are quite much not followers of registries — marriage ceremony, toddler or normally — and locate them rude. For my element, I can realize the concept at the rear of them, but I nevertheless uncover them tacky.

My brother and sister-in-regulation have made a baby registry in advance of their shower and it is, in our impression, outrageous with a funds O. Along with significant-ticket things costing a number of hundred bucks, there are also precise children’s book titles, hundreds of stuff no kid would at any time will need at any age, and what I contact “grocery store items” these as petroleum jelly and plastic bags!

My mom, specifically, is tremendous ashamed about acquiring her buddies and family who will be invited to the shower see this registry.

Discussions with the dad and mom-to-be go nowhere, especially given that we really feel we need to tread flippantly in the to start with area. The expectant mother and father imagine it is entirely fair and really do not understand how it could be offensive.