Expensive Abby: He says his mattress is for the dogs, and I need to sleep in other places

Expensive ABBY: About a calendar year ago, I began a lengthy-distance marriage with a widower. His wife died four decades back.

He informed me he slept on the couch for a prolonged time and got pretty minor rest after her death, because he couldn’t stand sleeping by yourself. He has two canines and experienced under no circumstances allowed them on the bed. He finally made a decision to try out sleeping in the bed with the puppies and was then equipped to sleep.

I have frequented him many periods, and he does not want to rest with me.

We have talked about relationship. When I explained to him I want us to snooze jointly, he claimed he wishes us to go on sleeping in different rooms/beds after we are married. I do not want that.

We have a wonderful relationship besides for this.

Am I being unreasonable? I truly feel like I’d be getting second position to his dogs, and I’m hurt that he would relatively slumber with them. I told him how I feel, but he does not want to compromise.