Ask Amy: We’re scared of her husband, and now she has gone back to him

Dear Amy: My wife became friends with “Barb,” after Barb and her husband “Jim” moved to our remote community a few years ago.

We spent a lot of time with Barb and Jim. As we got to know them, it became apparent that Jim is a chronically unemployed habitual liar, a hoarder, a constant weed smoker, and regular drug user. Barb complained about his abuse.

I tolerated Jim so we could be friends with Barb. Barb told us that many of their other friends do the same.

Jim told me that he stalked his wife one night and that he parked outside our house, looking for her.

While the couple fed our pets when we were on vacation, Jim changed the landscaping and décor in our backyard, and they had a party at our house while we were away. We learned about this when we returned home.